Any parent aspires to create the best environment to educate their child, but sometimes it is difficult to know how it is achieved and what it means. Psychologist Annie gives some clues.
In order to have a happy child, who does well emotionally, socially, and educationally, you have to be firm but kind parents. This means that in addition to being loving, we must delineate clear limits and boundaries, as well as positive and negative consequences according to their behavior. Happy children are those who live in a structured home with rules that are enforced, allowing them to know where they are “standing.”
It is just as important that parents know how to have a united front, even if they are separated so that their children always receive congruent and clear messages. Neither permissiveness nor overprotective parents lead to happiness. On the contrary, children raised without rules, who do what they want, and their behaviors have erratic consequences, are not happy and will possibly end up as unstable adults.
Another factor to take into account to raise happy children is that you have to stimulate their passions, which are generally their talents and/or strengths. That is why it is important to know the child well to support her and stimulate her interests and talents. Here you could also think of stimulating a hobby or a sport that makes your child happy.
On the other hand, it is essential to have family routines such as eating together every day, as this helps promote emotional well-being. Also, this gives the child a great sense of belonging and bonding by sharing daily and special events with the family. Sharing special dates, such as birthdays, Christmas, etc., give the child a reaffirmation of their belonging to the family. Everything that contributes to giving a child a sense of belonging generates great emotional well-being. In addition, every child needs to feel that he is part of a family that loves and appreciates him.
Being able to hug, kiss, and pamper children allows them to feel loved and, therefore, happier. Physical contact is necessary to consolidate the bond between parents and children. It is important for the happiness of your children that they are taught to share with those most in need. Teach them to give and not just to receive. Show them with your example of how he is one more member of a community to which he must give his best.
Invite friends to play with them. Play is vital to the healthy emotional development of any child. The game promotes the development of social and emotional skills and also allows them to relieve stress levels and calm fears. Another factor that can contribute to the happiness of a child is that they grow up with pets, they teach them to care for others and develop a sense of responsibility, and they learn more about bonding and empathy.
Good advice that strengthens the quality of life is to always speak to them in positive and optimistic language that allows the child to always have hope. Negative language always has to be accompanied by positive phrases that tell you how to improve. Show him and tell him what he did wrong, but also how to do it right.
Having happy children is not that difficult. It is a matter of having a family that demands them, but that is loving and that they always know what to expect and that there are times and spaces for the family to enjoy them. This tanks them emotionally for the rest of their life.